Death is all around us. As much as we dislike talking about it, unfortunately it’s true.
One month ago my close friend’s Nan passed away. My she rest/ party in peace!
It’s a sad day when your Grandparent leaves this world. Very sad. Grandparents hold a position like no other. They have known you since before you were born because they raised your parent. They have been interested in you & your entire life! A grandparent is an influential part of your history. They love you like no other & take delight in you because you are theirs and a part of them.
On the weekend I ran into someone who told me her husband has terminal cancer & doesn’t have much longer to live. Their son is the same age as my oldest daughter, 12.
I ran into someone else who told me her husband had died 1 year ago from Cancer also, after a 6 year battle. Life can be so cruel.
On the weekend my sister celebrated a 13th birthday of a little boy who is no longer here. They ate his favourite things, dressed up in his favourite colour & with close friends did lots of fun things to celebrate him. What a nice tradition.
I cannot understand the Buddhist philosophy of trying not to get too attached to people (or things) & how you could possibly be okay when someone close dies. I agree with not getting too attached to things, but not people. It’s not realistic. We just can’t help it.
People were made to love, to be close & to share our lives with others. Love is an incredibly strong force.
I still miss my Nan & Grandma who both died over 15 years ago, I am still influenced by them. I enjoy talking about them & sharing memories with my family. I have things in my house that belonged to each of them. I have a cardigan I wear that was my Nan’s. I feel close to her in it, I sit on my Grandmas recliner daily to feed my baby, it feels like she’s with me. These are important in my life. I believe we can learn so much from our loved ones even long after they have gone.
Today I just want to acknowledge death, grief, loss and the difficulties people who are left behind go through daily. Sending you a hug & strength.
How do you remember special people you have lost?